So after my recent coming out.Which is going awesomely btw. (I love to talk about being gay and in LOVE openly.)
I have found out that not one but two other women at my work are gay and not only gay but MARRIED. howfreakingawesomeisthat?!
I do not, however, work in the same department as them or even in the same building. Buuuuut I have a sneaking suspicion that one of the people I came out to recently, told one of these gay ladies that I am also in the circle-of-trust. Why do I think this? She totally did the Lesbian-Backwards-Head-Nod. AND smiled. She's gotta know. I secretly hope she does.
Michael: Can you tell who's gay and who's not?
Dwight: Of course.
Michael: What about Oscar?
Dwight: Absolutely not.
Michael: Well he is.
Dwight: Well, he's not dressed in women's clothes, so...
Coming out is difficult because you never know what reaction you are going to get. Luckily for me, the only truly negative reactions that I have had are from people I don't want to be friends with anyway. But coming out is one thing. Working out who is gay and who is just a superdry fan is super difficult.
Michael: Do some research. Find out if there's a way to tell just by looking at them.
Dwight: Jim told me you could by gaydar online.
I often find myself having the is she/isn't she conversation but unless she has her hands down another girls trousers and is glued to her face, how do you really know? At Norwich Pride 2009 a woman was speaking about how lesbians check each other out when they see another could-be-lesbian but they never do the head nod, or smile when secretly we all want the head nod and the smile because we all like to feel a part of the secret club that is LESBIANISM.
So if you see me in the street and I do the head nod at you, its because I think you are, or should be, batting for my team.